The homes of bloggers are always tidy, the decor is well-matched and the food is beautifully presented... right? Annika, who runs the blog Yesterday you said tomorrow, has managed to capture with two really good pictures how something can look in reality and how it can be presented on the blog.
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ShareWhy do we do this?
Check out Annika's post here. The question is why we do this? From time to time you read articles where it is claimed that in the blog world, and on Facebook, people want to build up an image of themselves that is a little better than reality, and then get confirmation for it. And that can certainly be true to some extent. But I think there are other explanations as well.
Capturing the positive
Like wanting to capture what is beautiful, positive and fun. Life is full of problems to be solved and difficult, less glamorous tasks. The blog can be a breathing space where you can let go of the daily grind and focus on something you're interested in and passionate about, like interior design, food or travelling.
The most difficult situations in life can also feel far too private to blog about. How do those of you who have blogs reason? And if you "only" read blogs, are you bothered by the fact that it seems a little too perfect sometimes?
Provocative with all this happiness?
Many blogs you read are very happy. For example, many blogs are filled with beautiful flowers, exotic foods, cute animals and romantic sunsets. The people behind the blogs probably have personal problems just like everyone else, but you rarely need to read about them. According to an article in SvD, provocation was big in the early days of blogging, but now it's all about kindness and happiness.
Can't it be provocative that people seem so happy and perfect all the time? Are people really genuine behind the blogs? We try to be personal and honest, but at the same time it's about a selected part of life: motorhomes, camping, travelling and leisure. Other things in life, such as work, finances, health, relationships, children and family, get a rather marginal space on our blog. And that's how it should be. Or how do you reason?
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Johanna Sofia Siljehagen says:
Barcelona tip: feel free to email info@info-siljehagen.com posts most things on the blog at regular intervals.
Skipping perfect blogs because someone who is super happy or super tidy is probably manic or lying.
26 January 2013 - 18:46
Robin Eldin says:
Fun post and great links! 😀
A positive thing is that we readers also get away from all the crap, all the boring and exaggerated articles that our media covers daily. What many people don't think about is also enjoying all the wonderful things in life, big and small!
26 January 2013 - 20:14
Annika says:
Very interesting post! We mostly write about travelling because it doesn't feel like anyone is interested in what I wear or what I eat 😉.
26 January 2013 - 21:01
Matts Torebring says:
How did you know that we are like that, you haven't been to our house? Hugs from us.
26 January 2013 - 22:15
Aniika says:
Glad that you are continuing the discussion, & thanks for the link. I really agree with the part that the blog can be seen as a "breathing hole", both for the writer and the reader. Somewhere it becomes a form of escape from reality. But sometimes, well, I can go crazy with that "Todelooo, everything is perfect and tidy and nice and wonderful..."! At the same time, I also get tired of blogs that only focus on how dull and boring and hard life is.
As I said, the balance is delicate, and you have to find a suitable niche both for yourself and your readers. I really think you solve part of the problem by, like you, running a subject-related blog. You are passionate about travel, and it shines through! Now I will return to "perfect life in my perfect home! 😉
26 January 2013 - 22:27
Ditte says:
I also think that those who blog about "the perfect life" in every sense stand for something that is not really interesting to me. I don't really believe in that kind of life and if you read between the lines you can see something else. You buy yourself happiness for the moment; either through gadgets for the home, clothes or something else that "you have to have". But happiness cannot be obtained through external phenomena....
And sometimes I'm so glad I'm not young....
I don't have to care....
Good that you raised this topic!
26 January 2013 - 22:32
trilobal soldering says:
Hahaha, that's right! For me, that chaos can be a bit too personal and I don't want to show it to the whole world. Nevertheless, I write about general feelings, a little homesickness and if you are tired and angry or so. Actually, you know that not everyone who blogs and has FB is perfect 🙂 That's just how it is ....
27 January 2013 - 4:19
Ama de casa says:
I write mostly rubbish and nonsense. Of course, life isn't all good all the time, but I think it's more fun to write about positive things.
🙂
27 January 2013 - 9:57
admin says:
Johanna, thank you! I will email you. And of course read the blog!
Robin, well, you get a good dose of negative news every day anyway...
Annika, I like your blog because it's about travelling!
🙂
Matts, you're a blogger, so let's assume it looks like an interior design magazine...?
😉
Aniika, thank you for great pictures and a great post! I just couldn't resist linking!
😉
Ditte, there are many blogs that are basically about shopping for happiness, for the moment.
Trillingnöten, yes, you choose what you write and not, and how personal you want to be.
Ama de casa, it can be nice sometimes that everything is not so serious!
😉
27 January 2013 - 10:09
Ingrid says:
I try to be honest and not embellish life, just as I don't want to "wallow" in sorrows and injustices, and of course you have to have a private sphere. Not everything is suitable for the blog.
It may not always be very interesting and inspiring, but I have quite a few regular readers and not just those who blog themselves.
Surely you should niche yourself and blog about a certain topic, to get many readers. Because even if I say that I blog for my own sake, because I enjoy writing, the point of the blog is for someone else to read it.
But when I think about it, maybe I have found my niche anyway. I write about my everyday life, about the joys of life, about sorrows and annoyances, about how life can be when you are over seventy.
Now that I am alone, the blog has really become a breathing space. I have no one I can spontaneously tell things to.
Did you see? Did you hear? Did you read? Today I met... etc.
Then I throw myself at the computer and it becomes a blog post instead.
That's my take on blogging!
Love, Ingrid
27 January 2013 - 15:17
Ingrid says:
Sometimes you probably choose to embellish a little for yourself too... How I mean then?! Well, for example, in my worst periods of pain, I do not become more alert by whining and dwell on my worries a little type (you do not say it - there is no such thing) then it becomes a little easier / happier to focus on fun things. It is the same when I follow other blogs, there must not be too much whining and complaining. I like a little fun and humour. Preferably tempting food and travel pictures too for that matter!
27 January 2013 - 19:47
admin says:
Ingrid, thank you for sharing! It is certainly a breathing space, and a good way to talk. and I agree with you, even if you mostly do it for yourself, it means a lot to get feedback! It wouldn't be the same at all without it ...
Ingrid, I agree - to embellish is actually not just to distort, but to try to see the positive! Even if you sometimes want to talk about something bad/bad, it rarely helps to dwell on it endlessly... You also affect your own mood by how, and about what, you write!
27 January 2013 - 20:32
Inga Magnusson says:
I am not bothered by reading about the "good life" of other people. There is enough misery in the media anyway, it should not be a requirement to always read about what is sad. Everyone who has a Facebook or blog or similar must be able to choose how much of life's boredom and sadness they want to release and share. Then I like blogs that have posts both from the person's sphere of interest and from the person's everyday life, ie a kind of diary. It feels like the blog's strength, along with the immediacy. I avoid blogs that are purely interest blogs.
28 January 2013 - 7:24
admin says:
Inga Magnusson, I think I also like blogs that combine a personal side with a specific focus. It's interesting that you say you avoid interest blogs altogether. Sometimes you hear that people opt out of diary blogs altogether. But maybe that's the good thing, that there's something for everyone.
😉
28 January 2013 - 8:01
Helga says:
I rarely write about the most boring things in our life and I don't get too private either. That's how it is! It was at least a good post you linked to and it is certainly true in most blogs.
28 January 2013 - 13:40
Erik says:
I think that as a reader you want to read about the more glamorous things in someone's life than the sorrows, a bit of a shame that it should be so, but look at those who have succeeded the most. They have almost created an alter ego, which does not even exist in reality.
30 January 2013 - 13:48