Ok, here we go, and it's Peter writing again. I was in love like crazy and was going to move after 4 years of mental abuse and all the guys who passed by. I had really tried to get the relationship together for several years and in the end you become very receptive to invitations and I fell in love.
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ShareOf course, when I had to move, it was total chaos. Then all of a sudden I was the only one in her life, but there was no way I was going to go back on my decision. Moreover, to something that had been bad.
Father of several children
I took my stereo and my clothes and moved in with my new girlfriend. She had 2 children aged 3 and 4 and my son Robin was 5. Having my son half-time was a matter of course for me, but getting this group of children who had been abandoned together with new parents was no easy task. What an adjustment in life to become a father of three small children and I had thought of going to the urologist because I only wanted one child. My ex made several charm offensives to get me back so it was a turbulent time.
Peace and quiet, NOT!
My new girlfriend had a fairly chequered past with friends who did drugs and friends in HD clubs. I became a kind of order in her life and that was what she was looking for and I was looking for happiness in a relationship. Two broken souls joined forces.
She broke up with her old friends but they came to visit us and they weren't just any old blokes. Some came and said that they had taken a whole LÅNGTRADARE from the systembolaget with Absolut liquor in it, and that came on wanted on TV. When some came and had drug problems, money, toothpaste or something else always disappeared in the home.
I lent the car to one of her friends so he could go shopping, but I didn't get the car back. I looked for it in Järfälla the next day and found the car with the stereo gone, and a junkie in the back seat who was dying, really dying for real. I called the police and ambulance and it was complete chaos AGAIN.
Love conquers all
In my brain, it was thrown around about responsibility, obligations, and what I had gotten myself into. Now I had to run my own business at the same time, and be a good father of three, NOW THAT'S ENOUGH! Here came a boundary! Me or them! I can't live like this and the children should not even see this life. She chose the others completely and now we could finally move on. If you've got the hell out of the boat, you can row it ashore. I TRIED....
Don't forget to tell us something about your years or your week. It's not just me who loves to read your stories, but everyone who writes. Peter.
Next Happy Friday: Weddings, Children again and almost working yourself to death.
Did you miss the last Happy Friday? Read the Here is my life part 4
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Lena - good for the soul says:
Wow what a life you have lived. Intense to say the least! I was left alone, at 25, with a 2-year-old and a 9-month-old son. Tried to study at the same time. At that time, the children were with their father only every other weekend. This was in the early 90s when there were no jobs. And how attractive were you on the labour market as a single person with two small children?! In the end, an entrepreneur heard about me and I got a job. I was so relieved. After a while, my dad and I tried again for a few months, but it's hard to stir up feelings that aren't there. Shortly after we broke up, I met my current husband who has been an amazing father to my sons and we now have a 22-year-old daughter together.
A little short about me. Everything about moving, house building and entrepreneurship we will have to take another time, haha 🙂 🙂
Hug Lena
28 October 2016 - 6:58
åsa in åsele says:
Meen Yes 🙂 Finally Friday and the blog post I have been looking forward to... thank you,
now I'm going to read... just had to comment first 😀.
28 October 2016 - 7:19
åsa in åsele says:
No, Peter, you finished too quickly... I want to read more now.
28 October 2016 - 7:22
Imelda says:
You can't finish so quickly!!! ? Longer posts for the people! ?
28 October 2016 - 7:49
Peter Bergström says:
Åsa in Åsele: Thank you very much Åsa for your story! I have never believed in trying to repair something that is bad in relationships. I understand you because the children are there and you are thinking about the original family. You have been lucky enough to succeed in both work and love. And then I got back that I will hear more of your story that I will be curious about, next Friday, haha. Really fun what you write.
Åsa in Åsele: how good you are! I will have to do a double next Friday because I have finished 5 more. I have some photos for next Friday but need a few more so I will look at old friends. Some periods you have less photos and this was such a period. I have to work harder, haha. I wish you a good week and promise a double next Friday.
28 October 2016 - 8:18
Peter Bergström says:
Imelda: Now I have to get my act together, right! The people will get a long one next time, haha.
28 October 2016 - 8:28
Role o Carina says:
It was a long and chequered history, I'm glad it's all sorted out now!
Take care and have a nice weekend......
28 October 2016 - 8:31
Lennart says:
Interesting to follow.
A wild childhood often makes for good adults if they get on the right track in time.
I have many examples of this
28 October 2016 - 8:38
nils-åke says:
It's probably the case that you didn't know what you were looking for at the beginning of a relationship. I screwed a lot of cars and did some car racing as well. But at the age of 27 I met my wife (we have celebrated 42 years of marriage) and we had a child quickly so now I was the father of two children. There would be two more. Then I did what you would do so no more children. Work was never a problem.
28 October 2016 - 9:34
Ditte says:
Our experiences in life shape us in different ways and add another dimension to life.
You have lived a colourful life, to put it mildly...
I have probably in many ways lived completely differently and within a large safety zone. School was important and so was education, and I decided to finish high school with almost perfect grades because I wanted to be able to apply for the education I wanted. That's how it turned out and the choice was between a doctor and a gymnastics director. I thought the programme at the Gymnastics and Sports Academy seemed fun and took it. I thought that I could become a doctor later in life. But I didn't because it eventually didn't feel at all appealing.
Looking forward to next Friday's episode.
28 October 2016 - 9:35
Across the board says:
What a chequered past you have, Every Friday I am impressed that you got out of the "shit" and became the wonderful person you are! Hugs to you
28 October 2016 - 9:56
Ama de casa says:
I was also surprised the post ended so quickly, but I see you've finished five more. How about "Friday all week" next week? 😉
What a tumultuous existence you have had. It's good to know that it has ended happily!
PS: How long did that booze last? 😉
28 October 2016 - 10:02
Cattis says:
So fun to know a little more about you and your life Peter too and wonderful to know that it turned out well in the end! ☺ it is still our story that makes us who we are today and I myself have a few things in my backpack that both for good and bad shaped me into who I am today!
28 October 2016 - 10:28
Lena & Jan says:
Strong Peter! Have not read everything yet but if anyone is worth the life you live today, it is YOU and Helena!
Some Friday poetry; "Live, bloom and bud in an old coffee cup". Hugging Friday on your ??
28 October 2016 - 10:35
Anette Åhnbrink says:
Oh, today I was late to read your Friday text, which was too short! But you know how to make us long, but agree with Ama you can not have Friday all week?, here you were up half past six to drive the youngest son with friends to the train, then it has been full roll, and soon I will have to pack the rolling motor home for a hopefully good weekend in Grebbestad! My years around 1991, were characterised by more children, now two boys! We moved, the husband had different jobs and we rented out our part of the house in Gothenburg to a Russian bandy player! We were in Kalmar for a few years, nice there, came home and then we both worked, the children in the kindergarten, someone went home to pick them up and leave them with the nanny, someone stopped earlier to relieve the nanny, yes, those were the times, now I would give my bad left arm and both knees to have a job, but the sun is shining from a clear blue sky and it's Friday? Nice weekend on you!
28 October 2016 - 10:50
Mr Steve says:
It is both interesting and impressive to read about how you have progressed in life. You have been determined and strong, and you have made wise decisions. And you seem to be the same today.
When I think back to my own 90s, it was dominated by work. In a good way even if I went into the wall (stroke) in the end, 2001. Fortunately, I was able to meet MY LIFE'S GREAT LOVE before then and I still live in it. Albeit a very different life. A very good life.
I look forward to your next Happy Friday.
28 October 2016 - 11:37
Goatfish says:
Thank you for your exciting continuation of your story, which was far too short 😀.
Cool life and living, I read, a real exciting serial, where you wanted to peek at the end 😉 .
I'll probably publish My Life's Novel at some point 😉 as my life has been a bit chaotic all around, I've been stomping safely on the ground 😀.
Have a Happy Friday and in the evening I will watch bandy Villa Lidköping (!) I, who does not even like sports, but it's for the good cause 😀 I will be MODERATE 😀.
28 October 2016 - 11:46
None says:
"If you're stuck in the boat, you have to row it ashore" Haha that was really true when I got married in Los Angeles and discovered mountains of problems in the first week. After a year of trying, it was time to return home to Svedala. It took four years to get a divorce, it was impossible to row ashore 😉 Although I remarried the same year with my prince charming.
28 October 2016 - 13:13
snort says:
What an intense life you have lived and a life with many challenges and trials. Sometimes the road is crooked but thankfully many people find their way anyway. During high school I was probably not the most sensible but otherwise I have had a safe and good life in many ways. The same husband and three children and I hope it stays that way!
Happy Friday 😀
28 October 2016 - 14:00
Peter Bergström says:
Rolle & Carina: I have struggled a lot and I still do it on what I believe in, but more without a lot of other factors. Now I can focus my energy on me and Helena. Have a nice weekend.
Lennart: You are so right and I was probably never worried myself, because nothing I did was criminal but more curious. Have a nice week.
Nils-Åke: I had an appointment at the urologist with a neighbour of mine who said that you never know what happens in life, and was very hard on me. I didn't go and I had another child. Right or wrong, I still love the kid today.
Ditte: You knew so early on what you wanted and you realised it, very well done. I only know today what I want and now I'm 56 years old, haha. Better late than never. Have a nice week.
Across the board: What warm lovely words, THANK YOU. I am enjoying life today and am very happy where I am right now. Now we just need to shift up a few more gears and increase, so Helena and I can start the movement we want to drive. Have a wonderful weekend.
Ama de Casa: Since I have Monday all week and work all the time, I can't change it to Friday all week, haha. The guys who had it would "Absolutely" be paid for each bottle. Of course I bought a bunch, but they were too hot so I didn't want to deal with them. Have a nice week.
Thank you Kattis: Next week I would like to hear a bit about you if you have the courage. I'm looking forward to it. I wish you a nice weekend.
Lena & Jan: Thank you very much and we love life together. A little poetry on FREEDOMtravel doesn't hurt at all, haha. Hugs to you and a wonderful weekend.
28 October 2016 - 14:13
Peter Bergström says:
Anette Åhnbrink: What a flurry of activity it was, but that's the nature of having different jobs and small children. I got mine later in the story so I understand exactly what you mean. I'm currently sitting in the campervan waiting for Helena because we're giving a talk this weekend to the Caravan Club, or their members. Have a nice motorhome weekend.
Steve: Knowing what is right and wrong today is no problem and I make better decisions after love experience, and we all do. What happiness to meet the love of your life! Sometimes you think things are meant to be a certain way. Thank you for sharing Steve and I enjoy your stories very much. Have a good weekend.
28 October 2016 - 15:19
BP says:
The fact that there was a short post today that many of your readers have noticed somehow reflects your life back then. I mean who has time to blog when you have three small children and a job to take care of. Not that there were blogs back then, but you probably understand what I mean.
Have probably also lived a rather quiet life compared to yours. Lived iofs flea after the divorce but after a few years when I met the (current) husband, it was mostly travelling that mattered. The thing with buying a house, dog and Volvo only ended with an apartment purchase;-) We were actually close to buying an apartment on your former home ground in Viksjö. But then it became Täby.
28 October 2016 - 15:20
Annika says:
Wow, Peter, what a life you have lived.
I look forward to the continuation. Sounds like hard years with three young children and a difficult partner.
It is interesting to read about this, wish the post was longer 🙂 .
So nice to know that it's you and Helena and your Freedoms today 🙂 ðŸ™'
28 October 2016 - 15:40
Mr Nils Åke Hansson says:
Peter clear as day that you did the right thing. I also did the right thing.
Have a nice weekend
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28 October 2016 - 17:43
Anna, New York - My Bite of the Big Apple says:
It is always so exciting to read about your life, Peter! You really have a way of captivating the reader. Looking forward to the continuation - and it is good to know that you have found your way today.
28 October 2016 - 20:14
Peter Bergström says:
Inga: It feels like your decision was made very quickly and you almost didn't get rid of the bastard. Sometimes we make decisions with our genitals or that we are too much in love and it can go so wrong. You managed to ground him and swim on, haha. Great story and thank you.
Szogge: I think my path will always be crooked. I want so much and there's always a flood of ideas, so I probably mess up too. Glad you found your path that actually worked, so hang in there. Have a nice weekend.
Annika: The rest will be worse and I have probably lived a dramatic life, but it was to make it easier for you. If we share everything with everyone, I get easier and you get harder, haha, noooo that's not how it works, haha. Thank you for writing Annika and I have promised double "happy Friday" next time.
Anna, New York - My bite of the big Apple: Hi Anna and thank you for your kind words and they are warmer than you think right now. Have a cosy weekend.
Thank you all for your wonderful stories and it helps very much now. We were on our way to Kristinehamn and we are going to lecture to the Caravan Club and many pensioners. Normal journey 4 hours, now 7 hours. Our motorhome broke down on the road and they have towed the car to Kristinehamn city. It is two miles from where we will lecture so we have to go up and rent a car tomorrow. Helena and I sat for two hours on a mountain hill in 7 degrees waiting for the tow truck and it was not a bit of fun, because it gets damn cold. The car was on the E18 motorway so we did not even dare to go near it. Now we sit in the car and have warmed up a bit and I read your letters so it will be easier. Thank you all wonderful readers. A very tired Peter
28 October 2016 - 23:30
Matts Torebring says:
What a journey you have made! It is admirable that you were able to pick yourself up and leave your old life behind.
29 October 2016 - 7:17
Maria's Memoirs says:
Wow, you should really write a novel about your life or something, you seem to have a lot to tell! I had a boyfriend who was addicted to marijuana. After it ended, I understood that it was just as well that it did not last, but at the same time it could have been a much worse addiction than that (like heroin or something, but then I would definitely not have dared to deal with the person to begin with, I think, I am terrified of especially heroin after seeing the film Trainspotting (I think it was that one)... The worst thing about his marijuana use was perhaps mainly the money problems it caused.
30 October 2016 - 9:28