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Flight shame and corona shame - some thoughts on shaming

Flight shame and coronavirus shame - the last two or three years have been the year of shame. While there is some merit in the fact that we humans feel shame sometimes, we now wonder if shame has gone one step too far.

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Being ashamed - and being ashamed

Being ashamed, or feeling shame, can probably serve a useful purpose. You realise that you are doing something that is not socially acceptable, and the feeling of shame pushes you towards changing your behaviour. If you pee in your neighbour's flowerbed while drunk, you (hopefully) feel shame and try to behave better next time.

'Shame' is a word that entered the Swedish language in earnest in 2016 and means 'to make someone feel ashamed'. By deliberately shaming others, you can try to get them to change their behaviour. Interestingly, instead of the state pushing people in the desired direction with rules or economic instruments, citizens can control each other by changing social norms and shaming those who do not follow the new norms.

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Shaming - a problem?

Controlling each other with social norms is not always wrong. On the contrary, it is probably good that we do it to a certain extent. Because what would society look like if everyone accepted everything? Few people want a society where it is ok to throw rubbish in the forest, do drugs at work or walk naked in the streets. At the same time, there is something in that shaming that gnaws at me.

At the height of flying shame, it almost became a competition to see who could best step on others to elevate themselves. Although we probably all living in a way that consumes the Earth's resources too quickly, and although it is often difficult to compare the effects of different behaviours, it became popular to point the finger.

There were voices everywhere, idealising the behaviours they themselves engaged in and devaluing the ones they managed to avoid, in an attempt to appear sinless. There was also car shame, meat shame and multi-child shame.

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Corona combs - the new shame.

The year 2020 has been characterised by a terrible pandemic that is taking lives, putting healthcare workers in unsustainable work situations, bankrupting businesses and putting people out of work. We can all try to help reduce the spread of infection by maintaining social distancing, washing our hands and cancelling activities that bring people together. And this is where shaming comes in again.

Again, it is probably good that we feel some shame. If we weren't ashamed of excessive social behaviour, we might not restrict it, which would be fortunate for the virus and unfortunate for the rest of us. But at the same time, how do we behave when we shame others? Are we back in the air shaming mode of idealising our own behaviour and devaluing everyone else's?

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I read a thread on Facebook ...

Facebook is perhaps the ideal place for shamers and others who like to vent their aggression by spitting on their fellow human beings. I've touched on this before, when I wrote a post about "Why so much hate on the internet?”.

I read a thread started by a couple travelling in southern Europe with their motorhome. I don't really remember what the thread was originally about, because the purpose of the thread quickly disappeared in favour of aggressive shaming. One can certainly wonder whether it is wise to travel in the current situation, given that the infection is increasing rapidly and that restrictions are being tightened around Europe.

It should be obvious that there is some difference if you are already abroad, and that it may be more important to follow the restrictions of the country in question is not an entirely distant thought either, but such "details" are not something an angry shameful mob wants to deal with. Now they are free to unleash their inner demons in the form of exclamations like "idiots!", "egoists!" and "go home!".

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Now I am ashamed of the shame

Adults usually get upset when children bully each other at school. I get more upset when adults bully adults, because they should know better. Of course we should care about the environment and try to reduce the spread of COVID-19, and of course establishing social norms should be part of that. But we should think twice before pouring out our anxiety, our anger and our jealousy in the form of ill-considered and dirty attacks on our fellow human beings. I hereby shame the shamers. Shame on you!

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