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Everyone complains about Stockholmers (Stockholmers should be silent)

I've wanted to write this post for a long time, but haven't quite had the courage. Because what will happen? It can be seen as a Stockholmers taking a tone and that must not happen, God forbid. Everyone can complain about Stockholmers, but Stockholmers must remain silent. Those are the rules.

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Travelling in Sweden as a Stockholm resident

Travelling as a Stockholm resident in Sweden is a bit special. It involves a lot of meetings where you praise other parts of the country, while at the same time you have to take shit from time to time because you happen to live in Stockholm. According to the label, you are not allowed to defend yourself, but only to receive.

I've been thinking about this a lot, and I've realised that I at least need to get this off my chest once and for all. First, I will try to explain what I mean, and I will do so with the help of some examples from our recent travels in Sweden.

A meeting with a couple on a campsite

We met a couple at a campsite, who came from another city in Sweden, and they were both very nice and easy-going. There was a lot of talking and laughing. When they told us where they were from, we were able to say that we had visited their city, which we liked very much. They also had experiences of Stockholm to share. It was not quite as positive.

Stockholm is truly the ugliest city we have ever visited. We've travelled a lot and no other city we've seen can compare to Stockholm in terms of ugliness.

A meeting with South American researchers in Gothenburg

We met them at a dinner after a doctoral graduation in glorious Gothenburg. She was a researcher and he was her partner. They had lived in Sweden for a few years, but they had never been to Stockholm. But they had heard, by Gothenburgers. When we told them we were from Stockholm, they looked at us with pity, as if we had just told them we had an incurable disease.

Oh, it must be so stressful. And people are really unpleasant there, we have heard.

A meeting with a lady in Skåne

We bumped into a nice elderly lady in the neighbourhood. Ystad, when we took shelter under the same tree during a sudden rainstorm. The lady spread joy around her in the rain and we laughed at one thing and another. After a while she asked where we were from and we answered, honestly, that we were from Stockholm. It was almost as if the lady came off, but then she joked it all away.

Well, you can be nice even if you come from Stockholm.

Ystad is a very nice and charming town.

A conversation with a friend at a mingle

We hadn't seen each other for a while and now we met, finally, at an event. Our friend comes from Västerbotten, and we talked about possibly travelling in the northern parts of Sweden. Our friend told us that it can be perceived negatively if we tell people that we are from Stockholm when travelling north, but had a tip for us to protect ourselves, which is based on the fact that I (Helena) grew up in Lund.

You can say that you come from Skåne.

Are Stockholmers unpleasant?

The question, of course, is whether the criticism is justified. That is to say, is Stockholmers unpleasant? According to some non-Stockholm friends we asked, this is de facto the case (although they consider us an exception). We ourselves know lots of nice Stockholmers (and not very many unpleasant ones) so we have some difficulty with that interpretation.

Could it be that you are thinking of a tiny, tiny clique that hangs out at Stureplan and earns lots of money and could possibly be perceived as "stroppy"? If so, we would like to inform you that this group represents a vanishingly small proportion of the two million people who live in Sweden. Stockholm County - rich and poor, suburbanites and islanders, immigrants and the elderly, construction workers, carers, managers, artists, restaurant owners, happy people and bitter ones, single parents, students, the unemployed, nurses and civil servants ...

You know, the way people are most of the time! Some are certainly unpleasant, but we promise, there are many good-hearted, generous and lovely people in this city!

Södertälje in Stockholm County

Lie, accept ... or protest?

The question is how to deal with it all. The idea of lying does not appeal to us, even if it would be true to say that I (Helena) come from Skåne originally. The problem is that it feels wrong and sad not to be able to say which city you live in.

What about receiving? Yes, that's what we usually do. We do not claim that we are always very sad. Many people are probably joking. Maybe they don't really mean that badly? But it does feel a bit boring sometimes. So I just wanted to say it. Now that I've said it, I'm ready to take some criticism again, I think.

How do you feel? Do you dislike Stockholmers? Or are you a Stockholmers yourself? If so, are you a stroppy and unpleasant one?

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